Do you remember lying still on the living room floor? Late July, late afternoon. Lying on your belly, your flushed face cradled in your folded arms. In front of the metal blades of the fan spinning, spinning you were dreaming of airplanes and far away places.
Ensalada de Aguacate y Mango
The heat has been broken. Finally I sit here at my table on the deck cool and even slightly chilly. It is early morning and I feel the dampness of the evening melt into my skin. Despite the drought our watermelon and pumpkin vines are growing, winding their way towards each other, grabbing hold of each other. The tomato plant has green fruit and the herbs on the deck are behaving wildly.
The children are tan and covered in scrapes from bike and skateboard accidents. The boys have almost gotten the hang of the breast stroke in their morning swim lessons and my daughter is learning little by little how to catch a lightning bug without squishing it in her small hands. All three of my children are lean and quick. Throughout these long days, I find they are more interested in climbing trees than sitting still to finish their meal.
I have been eating a lot of pasta dressed only with olive oil and a coarse grind or two of salt and finished with a squeeze of fresh lemon. Beneath the hot pasta a small handful of either spinach leaves or arugula slowly wilts in the heat. I let it sit and come to room temperature before taking the first bite. Everything now is slow, light and easy.
I made the Avocado and Mango Salad from the cookbook Memories of a Cuban Kitchen weeks ago and think I’ll make it again this week. The recipe says to use mango or papaya so I used both. It also calls for a bed of watercress but at the time all I could find was arugula. The peppery bite worked in this salad just as well.
Enjoy!
Ensalada de Aguacate y Mango
1 bunch watercress, stems removed
1 large, ripe Florida avocado or 2 smaller Haas avocados, peeled, pitted, and thinly sliced
1 large, ripe mango, peeled, pitted, and thinly sliced
1/2 medium-size red onion, cut in half lengthwise and each half cut into thin slices
Pure Spanish olive oil to taste
Fresh lime or lemon juice to taste
Salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste
Line a large platter with the watercress and arrange over it alternating slices of avocado, mango, and onion. Drizzle with the oil and juice (whisked together if you choose), and season with salt and pepper.
Makes 4 Servings
What I’ve Got Growing So Far…
Do You Trust Me?
Anastasia has the contract – the terms of agreement Christian Grey has offered her to enter into a Dominant/Submissive relationship with him. The writing has changed in Chapter 11. I believe I have just read a real legal contract – James copied and pasted it right into her novel. I mean she must have, right?
The intimate scenes so far between Anastasia and Grey are written with complete erotic detail. I can see, taste, smell it, hear it, feel it all every time Grey takes her. But just as Anastasia is holding back with Grey – she still hasn’t signed the contract that will bind her (pun very intended), I will not let the author have me. Not yet.
I am pleased that James has put backbone into her main character. Ana is not heading into this dark relationship lightly. And she is making demands – changes to the contract while she still can and asking why? will she not be permitted to look him in his eyes and why? will she not be allowed to touch him.
Despite the writing, which unfortunately can be very distracting to the point where I am yanked off a page – and every few pages at that – I feel James’ committment to her characters – to her work. It is clear to me she is expert on this subject. Just before Grey “fucks” Anastasia he asks “Do you trust me?” I believe James is asking of her readers the very same question.
Summertime and the Livin’ is Easy
Fireworks last night. Too many plastic cupfuls of strong iced coffee from the back of our pick-up. Feeling too much alive to fall asleep, I stayed up until 1 am and am suffering for it today. Traded Grey last night for a cookbook. Memoirs of a Cuban Kitchen makes my summer reading list this year. Mary Urrutia Randelman tells stories of what it was like growing up in 1950’s Cuba:
Cuba, the magical island where I was born, was a paradise- a place of dazzling light, tropical breezes, and starry nights.
I have wanted to visit Cuba for quite some time now. And maybe because as an American, Cuba is so forbidden, I want it even more. So for now, I’ve begun working through the exotic recipes (exotic to me, yet very wonderfully simple and unbothered – Avocado and Mango Salad, which I made and promise to give you the recipe along with a photo soon).
Best of all Mary Urrutia Randelman has devoted an entire chapter to Cuban cocktails: Puesta del Sol (Havana Sunset) – guava nectar, pineapple juice, grenadine and vodka; Fuego Liquido (Liquid Fire) – pineapple juice, lime, dark rum, sugar and a splash of beer. There are a couple of daiquiris and of course, the Cuban Mojito among many delicious others.
I can’t think of a better way to enjoy another sultry sunset this evening than by sipping an icy Puesta del Sol beside the one I adore, while our children run barefoot through the grass to the wild vocals of Celia Cruz, who, I bet, would sound even better coming from vinyl spinning on my grandfather’s old record player.
Discipline, Punishment & Pleasure?
Chapter 9. Fifty Shades of Grey. Late last night after the kids were fast asleep, I took a cool shower. This was my attempt to wake up and get through more than five pages of Grey before passing out for the night.
All day long it feels like the sun is lying on top of me. The Master bedroom in this house never cools down as completely as the other rooms do in the summer. The sheets on our bed feel like I just took them out of the oven. The only relief is the breeze from the fan swiping at me intermittently. No surprise then that after cooling down from my shower and climbing into bed with Grey I was warm all over again.
Having read more than a hundred pages, I still stand firm – the writing is high-school level, maybe Freshman Composition at best. But – this author can describe a scene with acute detail. I have now “seen” Grey’s playroom. And like Anastasia, I have chosen to stay and play. And, like Anastasia, I’m really not sure how I could even consider this.
This is what I hoped to get from the author. E.L. James is standing before her readers naked – confident that it is our human nature to keep staring even though we tell ourselves that maybe we shouldn’t. She is taking us by the hand to the dark places within our psyche where the words, “discipline, punishment and pleasure” are somehow hanging out together.
Stay Here in the Heat with Me
It’s going to be another hot one today in Madison, Wisconsin. Temperatures are expected to climb and claw their way into the very high nineties. Early morning and already the humidity is beginning to tease and tighten the tangles in my dark hair. It is time to give in to the heat.
I didn’t make it out of Chapter Two of Fifty Shades of Grey last night before falling asleep. Maybe it’s the thick air that makes my eyes so heavy and leaves my will tired and weak as soon as I turn on my bedroom lamp. Or maybe it’s lines like “Ground swallow me up now!” and “-my mother is all about new business ventures.” that are like a double dose of NyQuil for me. This is how I feel so far – twenty-two pages in. I am not afraid of changing my mind.
This morning I am re-reading the first few pages of Love in the Time of Cholera by Gabriel Garcia Marquez. I’m sure the last time I read this was two summers ago and yet I can’t recall names or descriptions of any of the main characters. This lack of memory worries me. I know I read it because quite a few page corners are turned down to mark where his words come together in a way that gives me new understanding of the truth of our human-ness…
“Little by little, listening to her sleep, he pieced together the navigation chart of her dreams and sailed among the countless islands of her secret life.”
Like I said it’s summer and it’s hot. Rather than keep cool all day in the air conditioning, I prefer to sit still outside and read books that give off heat. Authors like Garcia Marquez and Sandra Cisneros (The House on Mango Street) inspire me to pick on fresh fruit and cheese right from the fridge then sip a cool drink – allowing its icy sweat to drip down my fingers while swinging gently in a hammock on a lazy afternoon in July.
I’m Reading 50 Shades of Grey (I Know You Are Too)
We went on a family outing to Barnes and Noble yesterday late afternoon. My husband took the kids to the childrens’ section while I walked up to customer service and asked the college-aged guy behind the counter if he had the following books: My Life in France – Julia Child, Mexican Enough – Stephanie Elizondo Griest, Caramelo – Sandra Cisneros. And then I said firmly, “And I’m sure you have 50 Shades of Grey.” To which he replied, “Right this Way.” There was no eye contact.
I stuck Grey in-between my other books and wondered if I could even bring this book – that none of the moms I know are talking about at the pool – up the steps into the childrens’ department where fairy-tale murals are painted on the walls and my own kids are innocently picking out more summer reading. I lingered long enough at the bottom of the staircase and soon enough was joined by the rest of my family where we headed over to check – out.
Before getting in line, I put the book back on a shelf. Standing next to my husband, he notices I am holding My Life in France and Caramelo and says, “Where’s 50 Shades of Grey?” I explain that the books I have will help me become a better writer. And then he says, “Yeah, but, I thought you told me the author of Grey is fearless?” Hmm. He got me. I was chickening out. From what I’ve heard, the author is fearless and that is why she is successful. I dumped Julia and quickly reclaimed my copy of Grey.
The kids dropped their books on the check – out counter one by one. I put Caramelo down first and then I dropped Grey wondering if the middle-aged woman with strands of white hair dividing her other-wise brown waves would look up at me and wink. I really wanted her to wink at me. I was ready to wink back. No eye contact. Maybe I am making too big a deal about buying this book. Maybe the author isn’t as fearless as I desperately need her to be. The cashier put all our books in the same bag and we were on our way.
After another errand and then a stop for dinner, we went home where we put on our pajamas and all of us climbed onto the couch to watch America’s Got Talent. All I could think about was the book lying in the bag on our kitchen table.
Bedtime came for the kids and for me. We all kissed goodnight and headed upstairs. My husband, not ready to come to bed stayed downstairs on the couch. After tucking the kids in their beds, I headed to mine, got under the covers and began to read.
I only made it half-way into chapter two when my eyes began to close. The author is building up this guy Grey to be a powerful, wealthy, gorgeous, manipulative control-freak – it’s obvious where this is going. I am surprised and disappointed to learn that he is not even 30 years old yet. She is using the word “grey” and “steel” to describe a lot so far. His eyes, his office. Her name is Anastasia Steele for Pete’s sake.
It’s nine o’clock in the morning. Twelve more hours until I can get back to this book.
For the Love of Truth and Balance
The last day of school was this past Tuesday. All three kids are home now excited to begin their summer vacation. It’s been three days and already we’ve been biking, swimming, reading and eating a lot to make up for those calories quickly burning off their small bodies. I’ve refereed some fights, one involving Nerf baseball bats and administered First Aid for some minor cuts and bumps. Have I mentioned it’s only been three days?
I’ve been putting off posting anything for fear that it won’t be perfect – at this moment I have half a mind on what I’m writing while out of the corner of my eye I’m watching to make sure my son and daughter don’t draw on each other with markers. It’s early morning and we are sitting at our table on the back deck and I know I only have another twenty minutes or so before it will be time to pull them off each other and feed them breakfast.
Schedules change. Routines shift. Life moves us continually in different directions. My life right now is about letting the kids stay up way too late to catch fireflies while keeping them well-rested enough to avoid the dramatic meltdowns. My hope is to get them in the kitchen with me and cook up some granola, homemade pizza, and watch them put together a simple salad of their own desire. I hope also to drop my expectations that my sentences need to be perfect and well-crafted and that I will just get the words out there because sometimes half-assed is better than no ass at all.
Here’s to Life perfectly as it is!
Update on Goulish Avocado Mango Salad and Last Night’s No-Plan Dinner Keeps the Vampires Away
After my last post I went grocery shopping and bought the ingredients I needed for Avocado Mango Salad. I was actually surprised to find perfect, creamy, orange flesh when I sliced into each of the three mangoes (it’s been awhile since I’ve had a really good one – that’s why I bought three). The organic avocado, however, was a let-down. I separated the two halves to find a grayish-green hue that reminded me of Frankenstein’s goulish complexion. That night we had really sweet mango slices for dessert. No regrets there. The next day, feeling mildly obsessed, I returned to the store armed with my list of salad ingredients ready for a re-do. I am currently giving the new avocado another day to sit on my kitchen counter and become the bright grass-green, butter-yellow delight we both know it can be.
In the meantime, yesterday was Monday, and as I sat at my kitchen table at six o’clock in the morning, having that first sip of coffee, thinking about the week ahead, the question, “What’s for dinner?” brought me into focus. However, twelve hours later and I still had no idea, so instinctively I began to boil a large pot of water and took it from there.
Last night’s meal was simple and I threw it together as I went along: whole wheat spaghetti tossed with garlic and fresh sage-turned golden in a saute pan of a little butter and olive oil, fresh green beans sauteed with more garlic and olive oil, and I’m just gonna say it – Trader Joe’s turkey meatballs that I warmed in the oven and finished with a drizzle of olive oil. A girl has got to take a short-cut once in a while and Trader Joes brand rarely lets me down. I sliced a little fresh mozzarella cheese for the table and done.
And then I wound up at Urgent Care at 9:00 pm with my daughter who accidently swallowed a rock. She’s fine and I know I’ll be seeing that rock again one day soon. But that is another story.
When was the last time you created a meal on the fly? What did you make? Did you surprise yourself with tasty results?
Paradise is Where You Find It
I’m a Jersey Girl recently transplanted to the Midwest. I’ve traded ocean views and parkway exits for cornfield landscapes dotted with red barns and cows grazing. My first winter here, I was surprised to learn that not every Midwesterner likes the cold and snow. So I asked around to anyone who had a moment (and most people out here will always give you a moment and a smile), “Why live here? It gets so cold and the winter seems to last forever!” The best explanation I received was, “Have you seen our spring and summer?” Yes, I have, and it really is gorgeous around here once the trees begin to green and the flowers and warm-weather birds return.
People are out walking and biking, kayaking and canoeing. Kids are outside until dark, returning fresh-air exhausted with dirt between their toes. The sky out here is so big! I have seen my fair share of full moons over the ocean – magnificent! but I have to say, never have I felt so small as when I stood on a dirt road and saw that same full moon light up a cornfield in July.
When I think of paradise, I think of an island somewhere in the Carribbean, lush with hibiscus and palm trees – I think of mangoes, I think of sipping a mojito at a bar on white sand under a thatched roof – my eyes closed beneath the wave of a tropical breeze. I’ve learned that paradise is a feeling that I carry with me. And I can feel that state of bliss deeply no matter where I am – whether it’s the Jersey Shore, driving on long country roads, or sitting at my kitchen table deciding which recipe from my newly purchased Cuban cookbook I’ll try first.
So while I decide between Avocado and Mango salad or Black Beans and Rice, tell me, where is your paradise?





